Which are one you?
We all have a guiding light or temperament that determines how we think, feel, and interact with the world. From archetypal psychology, this temperament is broken down into 4 types.
Lover - Charming, Sensual, Social, Adventurous
Warrior - Organized, Decisive, Ambitious, Competitive
Mystic - Perceptive, Imaginative, Spiritual, Untraditional
Queen - Caring, Generous, Devoted, Principled
Our Guiding Goddess can shift from one to another based on stage of life, circumstance, or time of the month. In other words, we have within us ALL 4 Goddess strengths (and consequently, weaknesses).
For instance, I spent the vast majority of my life exploring and expressing the qualities of the Lover. She is my primary or Guiding Goddess. It wasn't until I turned 40 that I began to embrace the powers of the Warrior. In my youth I relied on the gifts of presence, playfulness, sensuality, and curiosity to yield a livelihood. And while these gift still serve me immensely, I must now call on the strengths of responsibility, organization, ambition, and action to manifest my global vision. I am calling forth the Warrior Goddess.
Side note: As the Lover, it's no coincidence that my company's vision includes elevating intimate connection among couples.
Why am I now calling on the guiding light of the Warrior? Over the last 20 years I've observed smart, driven women doing what it takes to be successful in business. I've also noticed what gets left out of the modern woman's agenda, which is time and space for herself, inclusive of her sexual self-expression. The balance between doing (awesome work) and being (centered and sexually self-expressed) is such a powerful practice.
The vision I hold of a global community of women executives and entrepreneurs who are tuned-in and turned-on, activating their hearts’ desires and manifesting lives they LOVE is why I must allow the gifts of the Warrior Goddess to come alive within me.
Warrior women have become very adept at exercising the power to take action, achieve, and accomplish what is necessary to stay on top, even in a "man's world". But when we sacrifice our most valuable resource - feminine desire - and deny ourselves true satisfaction, are we really winning?
Take for example, the Queen. Also known as the Matriarch, she is found at the head of institutions and/or a household or BOTH. She gives and gives tirelessly and puts herself and her needs last. She deeply values the authority she has to get shit done. The balance then, for this Goddess, would be allowing someone to care for her. Starting with self-care. Being still, being pleasured, being in the moment may be just what she needs to counteract all the doing she does.
The Mystic Goddess, on the other hand, is blessed with the gift of inherent balance. She has the ability to see a bigger vision, to think clearly, and access possibilities. A woman who has matured by the guidance of the Mystic Goddess may be teaching, guiding, or healing others.
My journey as a woman has shown me that we must embody the gifts of the 4 Goddesses and allow each to emerge at various times. (That's the awareness I received while guided by the Mystic, as you might imagine.)
Grant yourself permission to honor all the Goddesses within you. Know that one is your primary guide, she sets the underlying tone for your life experience, and the others are there to support your fullest self-expression as a woman.
Play with this. Transform into the Lover when you feel called to connect intimately or experience your sensual self.
Wear the crown of the Queen when in your leadership role, accessing her gifts of devotion and authority.
Let the Warrior help power you through your challenging work out or conquer a competitive account at work or start a company from nothing and build it to a multi-million dollar powerhouse.
And be open to the insight and compassion of the Mystic Goddess who is always there to center you and support your personal spiritual evolution.
For more in-depth exploration of The 4 Goddesses, how to leverage your unique gifts, and understand YOUR MAN'S inner guide apply for a private call with Colette. One thing's for sure, you will get the insight you need to understand what's happening within yourself that's impacting your marriage.