Who I Do Not Work With
If this describes you, find someone other than myself to work with:
"I want someone else to do all the work." – These are the people who want no work at all, a magic pill. That’s not how coaching works. Coaching will make things exponentially easier, but you’ll still have to put your end in. If you’re not willing to do that you’re wasting your time.
"I just want someone to tell me what to do." – Coaches are not teachers, parents, or counselors. If you want to be told what or how to do something, read a book. If you want to create meaningful and lasting improvements in your life and relationships, a coach can be of great service.
"I don’t want to reach my goal, but I have to." – If you have bad reasons for wanting to reach your particular goal you’ll probably make a bad coaching client. People who get coaching because they’re being forced to do something (like your spouse wants you to) or lack a strong personal motivation tend to not be motivated to put the work in. You get back what you put in, so if you’re not personally invested in your success it’s generally not worth it.
"I’m not willing to make big changes." – You may be willing to work hard, but are you willing to give up some of that TV time? Do you start getting nervous when talk of new routines or habits comes up? If you’re not hitting your goal it’s almost a certainty that you’re not going to hit it if nothing changes. If you’re not ready to make at least some changes then you’re probably not ready for coaching either.
"I don't want to get deep or emotional." – You may be hungry for transformation. You may really really want your dating or sex life to be awesome or to overhaul your relationship. What you have to accept is that to make these kinds of profound changes, you have to go deep. You have to be willing to explore the emotional side of things, not just the behavioral. Anybody who struggles with weight knows, if it were just about will power (to change behaviors) it would be easy. But it's the emotions you must get in touch with to address the REAL issue. If you aren't open to that level of intimacy, coaching is not right for you.
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