Problems with PME?

GUYS- If you're challenged with PME then stop FUCKING your partner!

Tantra is not going to teach you some technique to fuck her longer. 
Tantra is about CONSCIOUS CONNECTION to yourself and your lover (And really, all of life). So if you want the act of sex to last longer then explore it as a vehicle for your mutual pleasure, connection, and expansion.

Tantra is a way of BEING that includes sexual self expression.

 

I know the media (ok, porn) has done a bang-up job of brainwashing you into thinking the longer and harder you can fuck, the better lover you are. WRONG!

What makes a masterful lover is your ability to be fully present, to enter into the encounter WITHOUT expectations but with genuine curiosity for what will bring you both pleasure at that particular time, along with patience, interest and intrigue in your bodies, and a willingness to be vulnerable at times and commanding at others.

Plus, sex is WAY MORE than just penetration. The word, "foreplay" is a joke if you ask me. Don't think of massage or oral or petting or making out or the use of toys as just the opening act that leads up to the main event. MIX IT UP. Enjoy all these things at random. OF COURSE she's going to be disappointed if all that goes down is a minute-long make out followed by you entering her and orgasming before she even gets her head in the game. Women tend to require a ramp up period to get fully aroused. Just because you can get erect in a moment's notice and blow your load lickety-split doesn't mean jack -- DO NOT relate your "sexual arousal and pleasure process" to a woman's. You will only mind-fuck yourself if you do.

And if you feel you are already doing this and you still come right away...then HAVE MORE SEX that way your body isn't over excited at the idea of her vagina enveloping your penis.

BOTTOM LINE is sex is a PART OF WHO YOU ARE (the very CORE ESSENCE, in fact) and expressing this aspect of yourself can be big-time pleasurable and fun and spiritually awakening even. If it's not, I promise it's not because you need to learn some new technique to last longer.

Want to actually LEARN how to be, do, and have what I just talked about? Call me. I teach tantra. Couples and women welcome, too. (and NO, I don't have sex with students...duh.)

P.S.  I get so many calls from men wanting a "quick fix" for this issue and they think tantra is going to give them the magic technique to keep fucking longer. When I share that my Tantra Program is 3 months long and is actually a spirituality-based personal growth and development program and that we don't have sex of any kind together they say "oh. ok thanks." and hang up. I KNOW men (and women) are not getting the level of satisfaction they want from sex. It's because we have all been taught THE WRONG THINGS about it. And yet we are ultimately driven by the deep desire to CONNECT intimately...so how about we LEARN HOW to do that in a way that actually serves us?


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Colette Davenport helps healers, empaths, and creatives get their magic back. By ending their secret addictions and self-sabotage, clients gain the clarity, confidence, and direction to take their lives to a whole other dimension. Colette is an international coach and speaker, a published author, and the founder of Badass Empath Academy, the school for gifted people.

“Over the course of 25 years, I've had the honor of helping people heal themselves of chronic illness, reestablish intimacy in sexless marriages, turn struggling businesses into profit-generating ones, and leave the 'safe' job (or relationship) they loathed for a life they LOVED. This is my calling.” — Colette Davenport

Ladies Only: Bringing Tantra Into The Bedroom

By Jamie Beckman on SheKnows.com

Reignite Your Love Connection with Tantra

To get to the heart of what tantric sex actually means, we caught up with Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson, authors of Great Sex Made Simple: Tantric Tips to Deepen Intimacy and Heighten Pleasure, who schooled us in the ways of the tantra — and how regular women (yep, that's you!) can get the most out of their sex lives using tantric techniques.

How Sting got it wrong

If you take away nothing else from this story, remember that the 5,000-year-old Eastern spiritual practice of tantric sex does not mean that you have to make love for hours. Instead, enlightenment and having a reverence for your partner that lasts beyond the length of any orgasm is at the core of the teachings, Michaels and Johnson say.

"It's funny that a comment Sting made over 20 years ago still has an enduring hold on the public's imagination," the couple says. "He's tried to explain it away or recant it in various ways. At one point, he said that he regretted making the statement and didn't really feel he could talk about the subject beyond saying that his wife, Trudy, is his church. That's much closer to what the spirit of tantric sex is all about."

"In the classical sexual ritual, the participants worship each other as embodiments of deities. We encourage people to bring an attitude of reverence into their lovemaking and to all their interactions. The tantric approach has far more to do with your mental approach than with technique. It's certainly got nothing to do with bragging about staying power."

But in tantric sex, you can feel pleasure longer...

"That said, prolonged lovemaking is part of the tradition," Michaels and Johnson say. "The tantrics of old recognized that orgasm can be a mystical experience, often the most readily accessible mystical experience of all. During orgasm, the mind goes quiet, and you may feel a sense of merger — be it with a partner or even with all that is.

For most of us, the transcendent potential in sex is something that's experienced only briefly, during the orgasm itself. If you extend arousal and focus on building it (this need not include genital intercourse), you may start to feel this sense of union well before you have an orgasm, and it is likely to last far longer than it would in more conventional lovemaking. So making it last is a means to an end, not an end in itself. If you can stay turned on for a half hour or so, you're likely to experience the altered state of consciousness we just described."

How to incorporate elements of tantric sex into your own bedroom: Header h3 with numbers to the side

Focus on your breathing and your (and your partner's) reaction to touch

"It's fairly common for people to check out during sex, to do things by rote and without a whole lot of reflection. Paying attention to what you're experiencing in your body, the way you are breathing and how your partner is responding are all very important," the couple says.

Give and receive — start with kisses

"To take this a step further, people tend to interact sexually based on a set of tacit understandings: Basically, I'll do you for a while, and then you can do me, and if we're lucky, we'll both have a good experience," Michaels and Johnson say.

"We encourage people to separate giving and receiving in a very methodical way. For example, it's great to experiment with giving and receiving kisses. Take a couple of minutes and allow your partner to kiss you and explore your mouth with his tongue. Then reverse roles. When you're kissing, see how fully you can give yourself over to the active role. When you're receiving, surrender to the experience completely."

Take 60 minutes and give each other a massage — but no sex yet!

"Set aside an hour or so to give and receive full body massages (culminating with genital stimulation but not intercourse). Do this on different days. As with the kissing exercise, the role of the giver is to give as fully as possible, and the role of the receiver is simply to receive. Taking this activity out of the realm of foreplay and keeping the roles clearly defined may help you discover new sources of pleasure, and may also give you new insights into the way you interact with your partner both in and out of bed."

Break a taboo by just talking about sex

"Many traditional tantric practices involved breaking cultural taboos, and there were many in medieval India," the couple says. "This was true both in the context of sexual ritual and more generally. In the simplest terms, the violation of these cultural norms had a liberating effect. Of course, we don't live in a society that has such clearly defined social rules, but we all have our own self-imposed limitations and our habitual ways of being, in lovemaking and more generally in life. If you can shed some of your inhibitions, you're likely to experience more pleasure. Talking frankly about sex is a big taboo for many, so for many, having frequent and explicit conversations about sex is a great first step."

Explore a personal sexual taboo together

"If you want to get a little bolder, you can identify a couple of personal taboos (you can also do this as a couple by identifying shared taboos), and then decide on one that you might be interested in breaking," Michaels and Johnson say. "Don't pick anything huge at first; it might just mean making love with the lights on or experimenting with light bondage, sensory deprivation or role-play. The purpose is to become more flexible and aware and to be less limited by preconceived ideas about yourself. Sometimes we deprive ourselves of a lot of pleasure by thinking, 'I'm not the kind of person who would enjoy that.'"

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Colette Davenport helps healers, empaths, and creatives get their magic back. By ending their secret addictions and self-sabotage, clients gain the clarity, confidence, and direction to take their lives to a whole other dimension. Colette is an international coach and speaker, a published author, and the founder of Badass Empath Academy, the school for gifted people.

“Over the course of 25 years, I've had the honor of helping people heal themselves of chronic illness, reestablish intimacy in sexless marriages, turn struggling businesses into profit-generating ones, and leave the 'safe' job (or relationship) they loathed for a life they LOVED. This is my calling.” — Colette Davenport

Tantric Sex: A Step By Step How-To (part 1)

A superb article that will guide couples interested in the art of Tantric love-making.

(Originally posted on How Stuff Works)

Have you ever experienced a moment of sexual ecstasy? How did it make you feel? Exhilarated? Luminous? Deeply connected? Intense sexual experiences are one of our greatest sources of pleasure.

At the same time, sex is often regarded with an equal measure of fear and fascination. We may crave sexual intimacy to the core of our being, yet also take great pains to avoid it. We may wish to be touched with all of our heart, yet fear our own vulnerability. We may long to rekindle lost passion, but have forgotten how to light the fire.

The practice of Tantra shows us how to reclaim the sexual intimacy that is our birthright. And through this most ancient of arts, we may discover new joys of the erotic and expand mere moments of sexual ecstasy into a lifetime of sexual bliss. At a time when the stresses, fears and distractions of daily life threaten so many relationships, the age-old practice of Tantra shows us how to open our hearts, our emotions and our sexuality.

What Is Tantra?

Although Tantra has long been practiced in many eastern cultures, it is just beginning to flourish in the United States. Born in India more than 6,000 years ago, Tantra emerged as a rebellion against organized religion, which held that sexuality should be rejected in order to reach enlightenment.

Tantra challenged the acetic beliefs of that time, purporting that sexuality was a doorway to the divine, and that earthly pleasures, such as eating, dancing and creative expression were sacred acts.

The word Tantra means "to manifest, to expand, to show and to weave." In this context, sex is thought to expand consciousness and to weave together the polarities of male (represented by the Hindu god, Shiva), and female (embodied by the Hindu goddess, Shakti), into a harmonious whole.

Couples need not adopt the Tantric pantheon in order to benefit from the sexual wisdom of this ancient art. Tantric sexual practices teach us to prolong the act of making love and to utilize potent orgasmic energies more effectively.

Tantra is also health enhancing. "Sexual energy is one of our most powerful energies for creating health," says Christiane Northrup, M.D., author of "Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom."

"By using sexual energy consciously...we can tap into a true source of youth and vitality."

How Is Tantric Sex Unique?

In the West, we sometimes view sex as a source of recreation rather than a means of transformation. The goal may be to reach orgasm rather than to pleasure our lover or to connect with him or her more fully.

Beginning Tantric Sex Techniques

The usual kind of lovemaking, say sex experts, has a distinct beginning and ending, with a climax somewhere in between and an average duration of 10 to 15 minutes. Given that women can take about 20 minutes just to reach full arousal, this type of sexual experience can be deeply unsatisfying.

In the Tantric model, the sexual experience is seen as a dance with no beginning or end. There is no goal, only the present moment of exquisite union. For this reason, lovemaking is meditative, expressive and intimate. Tantra teaches lovers how to extend the peak of their sexual ecstasy so that women and men can experience several orgasms in a single sexual encounter.

Leading teachers of Tantra suggest that even men who experience premature ejaculation can learn how to extend orgasm, and, with practice, to enjoy multiple orgasms. One of the most well known advocates of Tantra is the musician, Sting, who credits his fulfilling sex life to this ancient art. With ingredients such as love, trust and mutual respect, the magic of Tantra is available to couples of all ages and levels of sexual experience.

The following exercises will help you reconnect with your body and with your partner in a profound way. As you move through these steps, do not focus on intercourse as the ultimate goal. Instead, simply enjoy giving and receiving pleasure using gentle touch and loving words.

Communicate with your lover to discover what he or she finds most arousing. Try to spend several weeks practicing the Tantric Intimacy Exercises without necessarily engaging in intercourse. For many, experiencing these erotic exercises with no pressure to "go all the way" helps release sexual guilt, builds trust and reawakens sexual desire. Enjoy!

Welcoming Love

Make time for each other every week. Plan a sexual rendezvous at least once per week. Set aside an hour or more of uninterrupted time to be together. Although it may be difficult to find the time or to manage children, you won't be able to benefit from Tantra if your relationship is not a priority.

Create an inviting atmosphere. Whether you meet in your bedroom, living room or another space in your house, creating a sacred space for each other will help relax you and bring you into the moment. Candles, fresh flowers, erotic art, finger foods and tantalizing aromas can transform any room into a temple of sexual delight. Even something as simple as dimming the lights and playing erotic music will help create a welcoming environment.

Dress provocatively. Or, wear nothing at all. Experiment with clothing or accessories that make you feel sexy and excite your partner.

Tantric Intimacy Exercises

Use ritual to develop intimacy. Begin your journey with a ritual. This may be something as simple as feeding each other delicious foods or sharing a glass of wine in the nude. Some couples enjoy bathing together in order to attune to each other.

Take time to wash each other with loving care. Water relaxes the body and is a symbol of sexuality. Massaging each other is also an excellent way to fuse your energies. Or, read poetry to each other, dance, play, listen to music—work on developing new intimacy skills. Most importantly, use this time tocommunicate,sharing what you adore about each other. The idea is to help each partner feel loved and cherished.

In order to fully focus on each other (rather than on the goal of sex), some lovers experiment with various intimate rituals for several weeks before moving on to the next steps or engaging in intercourse. This is a wonderful way to strengthen the bonds of love and ignite passion.

"The only time we ever think about breathing is when we have trouble doing it, yet conscious breathing can be a powerful aid in sexual growth," according to sex therapist Marty Klein, Ph.D. of Palo Alto, California. Breathing exercises also quiet the mind and help you focus on each other.

Try this exercise: Sit quietly, cross-legged, facing each other. Rest your hands on your knees with your palms facing up. As you gaze into your partner's eyes, take soft, but deep breaths. Keep your eyes open, gazing beyond the eyes, into the soul. Although this may feel awkward at first, sustained eye contact is essential for building intimacy.

Now, pay attention to your breathing. Begin to breathe at the same pace, bringing air slowly in through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. Maintain eye contact while you breathe together. Practice this exercise until you can sustain eye contact and harmonized breathing for about 10 minutes. Then, you may move into the next exercise.

Experiment with erotic touch to fully appreciate your partner. This most pleasurable practice will help you become better lovers. Although you should continue to maintain eye contact, don't worry about keeping your breath synchronized. Breath will come back into play later. Guide your partner as you take turns stimulating each other. Describe exactly how you would like to be touched.

Share your desires in an encouraging way, making requests in a clear and loving manner. For example, ask your lover to caress your clitoris or penis (or any erogenous zone), encouraging him or her to apply more or less pressure, to stroke in a specific pattern, to use the tongue, etc. Thank your lover and let him or her know with words or sounds that you are enjoying this sensual touch.

Once you become comfortable with this process, you may wish to create a "pleasure chest." Include whatever excites you and your partner—a feather, vibrator, massage oil, blindfold, soft fabric, erotica and loving notes to each other are just a few ideas. As you pleasure each other, don't be shy about asking for something different. This is your time for appreciation, experimentation and for taking responsibility for your own fulfillment by asking for what you want.

From here, you may wish to embark on your own erotic journey. Create amorous adventures together, exploring new and creative ways to awaken each other's bodies and minds. Then, you will be ready for Tantric lovemaking.


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Colette Davenport helps healers, empaths, and creatives get their magic back. By ending their secret addictions and self-sabotage, clients gain the clarity, confidence, and direction to take their lives to a whole other dimension. Colette is an international coach and speaker, a published author, and the founder of Badass Empath Academy, the school for gifted people.

“Over the course of 25 years, I've had the honor of helping people heal themselves of chronic illness, reestablish intimacy in sexless marriages, turn struggling businesses into profit-generating ones, and leave the 'safe' job (or relationship) they loathed for a life they LOVED. This is my calling.” — Colette Davenport

Tantra in Men's Health Magazine

As I was flipping through the latest issue of Men's Health (that I picked up for Matt, I swear), the "Sex Feature", a segment that just about every mainstream magazine for men or women has these days jumped out at me.  The feature titled, "Your Sex Wishes Granted" talked about things like erotic massage, outdoor sex, role playing, a threesome and on down the list...TANTRIC SEX.  Well, now I'm even more interested to read this author's perspective!  Steve Almond was sharing his experience, much like I do, about the interesting and rewarding, and pleasureable, and frustrating, and confusing, and wacky, and somehow limitlessly wonderful SEXUAL NATURE of us humans.  

The article starts:

"Sex isn't just about gratification... it's about overcoming your inhibitions and conquering fear and shame on behalf of a shared pleasure."  He continued to say that he and his wife, Erin, "had fallen into a routine, as couples sometimes do..." and after consulting a sex therapist he decided to create EROTIC RESOLUTIONS with Erin.  After a nice romantic dinner and some wine to relax them both, they made their lists.  She listed massage first. (Like I've been saying for years, gentlemen, women LOVE massage.  It's what really gets us in the mindset/mood for sex.)  Next, Steve offered "outdoor sex", which he said was attractive because of the thrill of being seen or caught involved.  He followed that by sharing that the scheduled dates and same old venue (the bedroom) felt a little too safe.  Mixing it up is always a good thing!  

The two lovers talked about other erotic resolutions and then came Tantric Sex.  I'll share here what was written in the article exactly as it is.

"It hardly came as a surprise that Erin pitched this idea.  She'd brought it up before and even had a book on the subject, which I was supposed to have read, though I'd gotten only as far as the pictures.  

But hey, I'd read the interviews with Sting.  I knew what tantra was all about: prolonging sex in some vaguely Buddhist manner so as to produce mind-blowing climaxes.  'I'm in, ' I said immediately. 

'Okay,' Erin said.  'But you did read the book, right?'

'Right,' I said.

'So you know it's not just about sex.'

'Of course,' I said.

'The focus is not on orgasms.'

'Sure.'

'There are going to be some sessions where we just breathe together.'

'Hold up,' I said. 

The ensuing discussion went just about as badly as you might imagine.  I kept saying things like 'Couldn't we just quietly hump when you come back all sweaty from yoga?'

A pattern seemed to be emerging in our resolutions.  Erin was emphasizing activities that involved a fair amount of -- for lack of a better term -- emotional legwork.  I, being a dude, was more focued on revamping our physical repertoire."

Off in the side column there were "tips" from experts added to the author's experiment with his wife.  Regarding tantra, Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a relationship expert and professor of sociology at the University of Washington offers this:

"Forge a connection.  Tantra isn't just about orgasms -- it's about connection."

The following technique offered by Schwartz is also one I recommend to all my clients seeking to connect with their partners.  It is simple and can be done clothed or nude (I prefer the latter).  Sit comfortably facing each other.  Both partners: Place your left hand on your lover's heart.  Start with eyes closed and just feel for one another's heart beat.  Breathe normally until you begin feeling at ease.  Next, open your eyes and gaze into your partner's with a soft focus while beginning to let your breath deepen a bit.  As your mind yields to all the chatter focus on aligning your breath with your mate's.  That's it.  That's all there is to it.  The connection may induce feelings of ease, peace, joy, love, compassion...and/or...you might slip into the state of meditation.  You can conclude this encounter or allow yourselves to transition into lovemaking while embracing those feelings and that deep connection.  

Obviously, I recommend the exploration of tantra for couples wishing to deepen their connection and enhance (every area of) their life.  And like Steve and Erin realized through their erotic resolution exercise, men and women approach sex differently.  Being able to communicate our unique desires and limitations is not something we are taught in school.  Often times, we get to a point where a lack of satisfaction drives us to seek alternative or creative solutions.  Or we can prepare/educate/empower ourselves in advance to avoid a fall-out.  This is where I come in.  Being a relationship, sex, and intimacy coach as well offering a tantra training program is how I support couples (and singles, btw) in articulating and creating fulfilling (sex) lives. 

To read the full article by Steve Almond, "Your Sex Wishes Granted", pick up the Febuary 2014 issue of Men's Health Magazine.  To find out if my coaching or training program would turn up the temperature on your love life, schedule a complimentary 30-minute call.  Finally, keep an eye out for my workshops (for the fellas and the ladies) in Austin, TX on the above topics and more!

~Colette

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Tantra and Holistic Health

In most Western societies, sex is viewed as a physical and often taboo act between two people with the goal of reaching physical orgasm. It's something we "do" rather than part of who we "are".  Most people understand that there is a certain amount of chemistry behind it but only insomuch as there are certain areas that stimulate pleasure and certain chemicals that are released during orgasm. It’s still regarded as a purely physical act, regardless of the fact that you may use mental stimulation to reach orgasm. Not so with tantric sex.

Tantric sex is a whole other ballgame. All pretenses are dropped. There’s no need to pretend that you’re a wonderful lover because that defeats the purpose of the act. Tantric sex is all about two people coming together in search of enlightenment, self-awareness and spiritual ecstasy. The body is there and participating but it isn’t the central focus; instead it’s the vehicle.

Tantric Energy

Practitioners of tantric sex appreciate the energy that sex generates. This is a pure energy, with no negative force or connotation to it at all. It is purely good. So good, in fact, that it permeates the entire universe. It’s an all-encompassing life energy that strengthens everything and everybody that it comes into contact with and the fact that we have that within us puts us at a level with "the gods" when we participate in tantric sex correctly.  You may have heard this energy called Chi, or Prana, or Kundalini, or Shakti.

Tantric Equality

Because everything has a contradictory force, male and female aren’t recognized as separate forces but rather as equal yet opposite polarities that come together in every person. Men have female energies and women have male energies. Much like the yin and yang, dark and light, or up and down, male and female are simply two inseparable parts of the same whole.

Taking that into consideration, during tantric sex, there is no leader or follower, no master and student. There are only two parts of the same whole coming together to create one of the most powerful forces in the universe: love.  Love is the word we give to represent that which moves us, that which is pure and unbounded.  

Tantric Life Force

When male and female halves come together in an authentically tantric way, setting aside all Western misconceptions, fears and inhibitions, pure energy - life force may be harnessed. Because tantric sex is simply about enjoying the energy and reaching enlightenment, all of that garbage and pressure to perform can be set aside. This leaves room for the natural life force, the Kundalini - Shakti, to be released.

When you truly come together, and reach that level of enlightenment, the intense life force that you will experience will be better than any physical orgasm you’ve ever experienced. You’ll be in touch with everything in the universe and will be able to exchange this healing, powerful, joyful energy with everything around you. This is truly the intention of tantric sex.  And like anything else worthwhile, it must be practiced to be continually experienced.  

What is Kundalini-Shakti?

"In India, kundalini is personified as the Divine Mother: Shakti Ma, Kali Ma, or other goddesses. She is the feminine power at the base of the spine, which travels up the spine to unite with the masculine power, her consort, Lord Shiva (Shakta), in the seventh chakra, sahasrara. This union of opposites is a powerful symbol depicted in all cultures.

In the ancient scriptures, kundalini is described in three different manifestations. The first is unmanifest cosmic energy: Para-kundalini. The second is vital energy of the created universe: Prana-kundalini. The third is consciousness: Shakti-kundalini, the intermediary between the other two.

Shakti-kundalini is the link to higher awareness, the revealer of all mantras, and the eternal source of bliss flowing from sahasrara (crown chakra). Through her shristi krama (process of creation), she creates by descending from sahasrara through all the chakras. She sustains by abiding in the muladhara chakra. Through her laya karma (process of absorption), she destroys or dissolves by ascending and returning to sahasrara.

When Shakti descends to the lower chakras, she is known as jagan mohini (world bewilder) and causes maya: delusion, limitation, ignorance, and ensnarement in material life. As she descends, she becomes grosser and loses her power and subtlety.

As kundalini shakti ascends through the chakras, she becomes subtler. On her pathway upward, she reabsorbs all the creative principles that originally descended from sahasrara. This is called laya-absorption. During this homeward journey, Shakti removes the veils of maya (illusion), which evaporate like a mirage.

As kundalini ascends through the chakras, mental limitations are gradually removed so consciousness can shine in its pristine glory. Mental fluctuations settle down and the mind becomes serene. Awareness flows smoothly and the mind becomes a vehicle for bliss and happiness.

At sahasrara chakra kundalini merges with Shiva, who is identified with her. In her formless state she is consciousness. In her creative form she is Shakti, the power of manifestation.

Therefore, kundalini's descent creates increasing ignorance, bondage, and delusion. The same kundalini energy, as it ascends, causes spiritual awakening, freedom, and wisdom."

Exploring Chakras: Awaken Your Untapped Energy
Susan G. Shumsky, New Page Books (January 1, 2003) pp. 70-1

If you’d like to learn how to experience tantric sex with your significant other and release your own personal Shakti, contact me for the Tantra Training application.

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Colette Davenport helps healers, empaths, and creatives get their magic back. By ending their secret addictions and self-sabotage, clients gain the clarity, confidence, and direction to take their lives to a whole other dimension. Colette is an international coach and speaker, a published author, and the founder of Badass Empath Academy, the school for gifted people.

“Over the course of 25 years, I've had the honor of helping people heal themselves of chronic illness, reestablish intimacy in sexless marriages, turn struggling businesses into profit-generating ones, and leave the 'safe' job (or relationship) they loathed for a life they LOVED. This is my calling.” — Colette Davenport

A Bit About TANTRA

Did you know in ancient times, tantrikas were tutored by teachers in the art of love as well as 64 OTHER arts and sciences? Those who practiced tantra had a multidisciplinary education and were considered to be among the highest ranking, most sophisticated members of society.

Today, we are more than likely to have a well-rounded education from school, travels and our chosen occupations. But few of us have EVER been taught the art of conscious loving and more importantly, how to cultivate our unique sexual-spiritual capacity through love-making.

The good news: Couples can learn and teach each other, and Tantra can help. (yay!) You might consider Tantra as an "extension course" - a master class in love an relationships. Now this is a class we might all be eager to show up for! The experience can be extremely powerful. Consider when a woman's fire is tended and fed by her most intimate partner, the benefits are manifest for both lovers. But for women, especially, the rekindling of dormant sexual fires can lead to startling, unexpected sensations. A woman's sexual awakening can, unlike a man's, propel her on a spiritual path. According to tantric texts, women's enlightenment is facilitated by the electric charge of her orgasmic nature. Through the sacred sexual experience, a woman activates a powerful sexual/spiritual energy (known as shakti) which releases itself into her physical body and her psyche, creating the atmosphere for her awakening and spiritual enlightenment. Tantra recognizes spirituality as a kind of rearrangement of the same energy as sexuality.

Once a woman is awakened, both partners benefit. Her desire and satisfaction increase feeding the desire and satisfaction of her mate, which engenders total authentic giving and receiving by the two. Tantric lovemaking promotes health and vitality. Psychologically, too, Tantra is a healing art. It allows for overcoming negative charges in the second chakra, where we can retain imprints from information passed on by parents, religion, past experiences, embarrassments, etc. Tantric practices can discharge the negative energy, balancing the sacral chakra and in so doing make enormous resources of positive energy available to all areas of life. Some discover energy they never knew they had, a creative energy that refreshes the mind, replenishes vitality and restores passion for life.

I don't know about you, but this sounds like THE BEST MEDICINE EVER! Side effects? ... Only a lot more joy, fun, freedom, and connection.

If you find your interest aroused, I am here to hold space for your exploration and with wisdom and compassion guide you (and your partner) to an enlightened experience of love and life.

I work with individual men and women as well as couples intent on harmonizing and enhancing their relationships and their lives.

 

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Colette Davenport helps healers, empaths, and creatives get their magic back. By ending their secret addictions and self-sabotage, clients gain the clarity, confidence, and direction to take their lives to a whole other dimension. Colette is an international coach and speaker, a published author, and the founder of Badass Empath Academy, the school for gifted people.

“Over the course of 25 years, I've had the honor of helping people heal themselves of chronic illness, reestablish intimacy in sexless marriages, turn struggling businesses into profit-generating ones, and leave the 'safe' job (or relationship) they loathed for a life they LOVED. This is my calling.” — Colette Davenport